Relational Life Therapy

External Physical Boundary Violations​

- Standing too close to a person w/out their permission

- Touching a person w/out their permission

- Getting into a person's personal belongings and living space - such as one's purse, wallet, mail or closet

- Listening to a person's personal conversations or phone conversations w/out their permission

- Not allowing a person to have privacy or violating a person's right to privacy

- Exposing others to a physical illness due to your having a contagious disease

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Sexual Boundary Violations

- Touching a person sexually without their permission

- Not negotiating when, where and how to engage in sexual activity

- Demanding unsafe sexual practices

- Leaving porn where others who do not wish to or should not see it may see it

- Exposing oneself to others without their consent

- Staring or looking at another person (voyeurism) w/out their permission

- Exposing visually and/or auditory others to your sexual activities w/out their consent

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Internal Boundary Violations

- Yelling and screaming

- Name calling

- Ridiculing

- Lying

- Breaking a commitment

- Patronizing

- Negative control - telling a person how they should be or what they should do, or what they are thinking, feeling or motivated by

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5 Losing Strategies

- Being Right

- Controlling Partner

- Unbridled Self Expression

- Retaliation

- Withdrawl

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5 Winning Strategies

- Shift Complaints to Requests

- Speak to Repair with Love & Respect

- Listen w/ Compassion

- Empower each tother

- Cherish each other

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