Infidelity & Erotic Recovery
What is Infidelity and Erotic Recovery therapy?
Infidelity and Erotic Recovery therapy is a specialized form of relationship and sex therapy that addresses BOTH betrayal trauma and its impact on intimacy, desire, and erotic connection. It focuses on emotional repair, nervous system regulation, accountability, and the intentional rebuilding of trust and sexuality.
Can a relationship survive infidelity?
Yes—many relationships not only survive infidelity but become more authentic and secure. Healing requires structure, transparency, emotional accountability, and guidance that addresses both attachment wounds and erotic disruption.
Does infidelity affect sexual desire?
Infidelity often causes sexual shutdown, aversion, performance anxiety, or loss of erotic confidence. Erotic recovery therapy helps clients safely reconnect with desire, boundaries, pleasure, and embodied intimacy.
Is this therapy only for couples?
No. Individuals can benefit from infidelity and erotic recovery therapy whether they are healing after betrayal, working through guilt or shame from having an affair, or rebuilding their sexual identity post-relationship.
The Process
Phase One: Crisis & Discovery
- Establish Safety
- Stabilize family / relationship
- Normalize trauma
- Make an agreement to make NO - DECISIONS for at least 6 months
- Close exit(s) for a finite period
- Begin to process previous unhealed trauma using integrative modalities that create a safe container & regulated emotions
Phase Two: Re-negotiate & Renew
- Tell the story of the infidelity
- Dialogue about the MEANING of the infidelity
- Figure out what it meant for the person that reached outside of the partnership/marriage
- Figure out what it meant for the person that was betrayed
- Figure out what it meant about YOUR partnership/marriage
Phase Three: Re-evaluate
- Assess for permanence
- Create a NEW VISION for the relationship
- Grieve the old meaning
- Acknowledge fluidity
- Integrate meaning of the infidelity w/ self, other, US
- What did you BOTH learn from the infidelity
Phase Four: Erotic Recovery
- Erotic Recovery
- Re-evalute relationship to your sexual selves/sexuality
- Define needs for your new relationship
- Pleasure Constellation Map
- Erotic Blueprints
- Erotic Recovery Protocol